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SOME REASONS WHY LOVE MATCHES MAKE UNHAPPY MARRIAGES. Perhaps there are no other people in the world amongst whom more marriages are contracted from feeling of pure affection than will be found in Great Britain, and in other English-speaking countries and the person would indeed be bold who had the temerity to attack the time- honoured" system practised by the vast majority of Britishers to-day, and by their forefathers of many a generate n past. It would hurt the feelings of thousands even to suggest to them the bare pos- sibility of their marrying for anything but love, so repugnant is it to their ideas of probity to give the hand where the heart cannot follow. It i s, however, no use attempting to disguise the fact that marriages for love frequently end in dis- aster,and often enough in those very cases during courtship which are the fullest of promise are the soonest to succumb to the trials of married life. Why does love-matches often make un- happy marriages ? There are various reasons. People in love live too much in the present the future is left to take care of itself, and like many things left to its own device, generally goea contrary to the way desired. In courtship love tinges everything with roseate hue stern realities of life are lost sight of in romantic ideas the humble cottage with the loved one is thought preferable to the lordly castie without, and idiosyncrasies are left out of consideration, or lack the attention they deserve. Again, marriage under the in )st favourable conditions is but a lottery, or at all events, little more, because that which is so absolutely essential to the sucjess of marriage state cannot be determined beforehand, notwithstanding how long the engagement may have been even those whose judgment is not blinded by love and passion are unable to dis- cover before marriage how they will agree when the knot is tied. With the fastening of the knot comes the rub, the straining, the trial when circum- stances compel a couple to live llflder the same roof, to eat at the same table, and to entertain each other in fair days and in foul, not for once or twice in a way—as in the halcyon days of courtship, when effort is a pleasure and time never palls-but for every day in the week and every week in the year. When people m.irry for love and the union proves a failure, the disap- pointment is doubly disheartening. Perhaps years of joyous hopes and d delicious dreamings are dissipated ere the real experience of married life begins. Thus they are broken hearted and bowed to the ground. They are like a ship which sailed in safety for months over an un- certain sea and when the haven is in sight, when every chance of danger seems passed, a squall suddenly stuarts up and overwhelms them in the very harbour in which they hoped to cast their anchor ani swing at rest. When people marry for convenience and ii )t for love. they are more or less prol),trel for eventualities of what- soever kind turn up. They are conscious, and have the fact ever before them, of having under- taken a risky contract. It their marriage turns out a failure it is lookeci upon as bad busllJess," and they philosophically nuke the best of a bad job. They have not been buoyed up by fal-c hopes and vain dreams their feelingi receives no severe and unexpected shock the green mon- ster jealousy troubles them but little, if at all. Those who marry for love usually stake their all on the result and in a game of chance, generally spe tking, the blanks out-number the priztJL Thus it will be seen why love-matches make unhappy unions but with all the drawbacks and disappointments inseperable therefrom in the prjsent imperfect state of human natute, mar- riages for love are the most popular, most holy, natural, and best.

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