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LADIES. AMERICAN ADVICE TO OLD MAIDS. It is unfortunate that there should be so great a horror felt on the part of unmarried women toward this epithet: old maid." There is this to be said of the old maid. She has an individuality of her own. She has a name which is vital. It is sym- metrical. She does not hide her light under the bushel of matrimony. She is not absorbed into another's legal existence. In fact, she has just as much personality as any man. Everything in this world is based upon the law of compensation. And in this fact may be found the compensation for the unmarried woman. If she has property she can do with it as she pleases without consulting a man, who pcssibly may be stubborn, or selfish, or mean. If she has no property, but has to work for her living, she is not compelled to spend a portion of it on a husband who is too lazy to work or if he is able and willing to work is not able to earn enough to support two in reasonable comfort. These are compensations which are not without great value. In the mind of everyone that has a kindly nature the unmarried woman of mature years is clothed in peculiarly bright attributes. True, there are some mature maidens whose minds are so contorted that to them the world is turned upside down, and every man, woman, and child is their particular enemy. But these are the exceptions, and it has often been said that the exceptions prove the rule. Not long ago a women killed herself because, as Bhe confessed in an ante-mortem letter, she had not the courage to be an old maid. This woman » as one of the foolish virgins. The old maid becomes in many cases a hallowed character, Her pure and kindly face, unmarked by a single selfish impres- sion, is significant of the struggle that has been carried on within, and the final triumph of spirit over matter. It takes a great deal of courage to stifle the aspirations of womanhood, to banish the dreams of youth and to settle down to the life of self-abnegation and sacrifice which maiden-hood imposes. The maternal longing is strong in the breast of every woman. Nature has implanted it there. She who is without it is not worthy the name of a woman. And in extinguishing this long- ing there is a great burden of sacrifice. But this has its reward, too. There shines out of the eyes of nearly every unmarried woman who has reached "the old maid" period a light which speaks of gentleness and perfect serenity within. There are few old maids who, if they originally had lovable characters, are not really beloved by a wide circle of friends. She is more than esteemed. She is loved by every one that knows her. And, better than that, everyone is ready and willing to show her those little courtesies and attentions which are 80 prized by all womankind. There seems to be a desire on the part of every thoughtful member of society to contribute as much as possible to the com- fort and happiness of the old maid. MERMAIDS IN CORNWALL. The Daily Telegraph. was engaged the other day, among the thousand and one duties implied in getting up each number, in enforcing the lesson tnat all young people, whether boys or girls, should be taught to swim. Foi lads it ought to be compulsory. For lasses the Daily Telegraph gave encouragement in its narration of the gallant conduct of delicate Mabel Bell, of Highbury New- park, London, who, spite of the weak frame that abrined a bold heart and only seventeen summers, saved Miss Vincent from drowning, at Kingsdown, Kent. The interesting paragraph ended with: Surely other English maidens might learn to do as well, if occasion required." Just about the time those lines were penned that corner to Mount's Bay which lies between St. Michael's Mount and Marazion would have gladdened the mind of the penman who wants English girls to swim. A group, from which merry voices of gladsome, healthy maidens burst on the air, descended from the Castle. That group comprised Lord and Lady St. Levan, several members of their family, and some visitors. Many of these, when they had reached the little pier, threw off light wraps and stood in the sunshine and the breeze in the bath- ing costumes they don so often in the rock-hewn privacies at the south-west front of the Mount, whose outlets look out to the chops of the channel. Lord St. Levan got into a boat as umpire and guardian. Peers of the realm have seen unusual sights at times, abroad and at home. Take, for instance, the scenes Lord Dufferin must have wit- nessed. But surely few members of the Upper House witness in their holiday-time the little event which followed. One after the other plunge into the sea Lord St Levan's five daughters-the Hon. Elizabeth, Misses Audrey, Nellie, Evelyn, and Mabel St Aubyn, Captain Michael St Aubyn, their brother (fast regaining good health after*fever in Burmah), Lady Agnes Townshend (Lady St Levan's niece), Colonel and Mrs Knollys, and Mr Manver. Splashing and dashing in sport, now at real swimming- work again, amid chatter and laugh and occasional splutter or puff, for there was a ripple on the water, they swam the 800 or 900 yards from island to main — over just the coarse the Mount's dread giant Cormoran waded and swam when he visited the purlieus of Marazion and carried back to his granite fastness the oxen and sheep of his smaller and honester neighbours. That distance done, the swimmers took to wraps and boats and pulled to the Mount, rejoined Lady St Levan, and scampered over the level greensward and climbed the steep ascent to castle home and well-earned lunch. The young folks at The Mount are all frequent bathers and bold swimmers. They have given evidence of bravery as well as kindness, and we may feel assured that if ever the chance came of doing the work of Grace Darling or Mabel Bell, the St Aubyns would be there.' From childhood familiar with the open sea, they have made it their confidant and playmate, until they treat it in the spirit breathed in Byron's beautiful lines, and so their arms would be additionally nerved had they to rescue any of the too large numbers who ought to swim and do not, but who will acquire that useful and wholesome art if they listen to the good advice of the Daily Telegraph. BRIDAL VEILS. In Foland the bride's eyes are covered with a veil, and she is led blindfolded to all the doors of her new home. In days gone by, the Polish bride went to church preceded by her lady friends attired in long red veils. After the service her mouth was anointed with honey, and her eyes blindfolded with her veil, and she was thus led to her home, her friends throwing wheat, barley, oats, and rice, as a symbol that she would never be in want of the necessaries of life as long as she did her duty. In some parts of Russia, wreaths of wormwood are piaoed on the heads of the bride and bridegroom, whilst in others, on the evening of the wedding- day, a feast celebrates the event, when the bride wears a veil, and is separated from her husband at the table by the curtain. In the Christian Church of Abyssinia, the marriage customs are very peculiar. The bride and bridegroom are shot up for a month after the ceremony, and the wife has to wear a black veil as a covering for her face for six weeks. In modern Egypt, a woman is never seen by her future husband until after the marriage cere- mony, and she is always veiled. The day before the ceremony the bride goes in state to her bath, walking under a canopy of silk carried by four men. From head to foot a large shawl encircles her, resembling somewhat in size the Hebrew veil. A Jewish bride's veil covers not only her face but her whole body. Evelyn, in his Diary in the year 1646, thus notices a Jewish marriage which was solemnised at the Ghetto in Venice:— "The bride was clad in white, sitting in a lofty chair and covered with a white veil; then two old rabbis joined them together, one of them hold- ing a glass of wine in his hand, which, in the midst of the ceremony, pretending to deliver to the woman, he let fall—the breaking whereof was to signify the fraility of human nature, and that we must expect disasters under all enjoyments." Many eminent authorities provide us with curious details in regard to wedding customs of all times and climates. Thus Layard, in his "Nineveh and Babylon," describes a marriage ceremouy near Nimroud, when the bride, covered from head to foot by a thick veil, surrounded by friends clad in the brightest and gayest-coloured robes, was escorted to the bridegroom's house. On her arrival there, she was placed behind a curtain in a darkened room for three diys whilst the guests feasted; after three days had elapsed the bridegroom was allowed to approach her. Again, Mr Stowe, in his interesting book on London, narrates that in 1560 three daughters of a certain Mr Atkinson were married on the same day, but they wore no veils. They went to Church, all three one after another, with three goodly caps, garnished with laces, gilt and fine flowers, and rosemary strewed for their coming home." In Turkey, a bride is always covered eight days before her marriage, and she is not to be seen otherwise even before the relations of her intended husband. In Greece, in the early part of this century, the bride wore a long, transparent veil, which entirely concealed her features. Her veil was taken off when she arrived at the bridegroom's house, and she was led into the presence of her husband, her maiden friends meantime occupying themselves with danc- ing and singing nuptial songs.

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